5 Comments | posted April 16th, 2009 at 02:00 pm by Kimberlee Auerbach
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Kimmi
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Kimmi. First things first. These glasses are So HOT. SUPER hot. Like Clark Kent but feminine and sultry. Your gorgeous eyes absolutely smolder behind those lenses.
Okay, now I can talk about the actual content of your blog.
That question, “What do YOU want?” was a huge one for me in college and right after. That individuation felt so crucial to me at that age, and inextricably linked with the question, “Who AM I?” The latter question feels less urgent to me now, but “What do I want?” or “What are my desires?” certainly feels current and important, though more peaceful and intriguing than how it sounds in The Notebook (and was when I was a teenager).
Also, “guardian of his solitude” – so good. I hung my hat on that for years, but I’d forgotten it for a while. Thank you for reminding me.
Jennifer! Thank you SO MUCH for liking my new glasses! Long story, but that means a lot to me!
And yeah, I hear how the question can go from all young and angsty to more mature and peaceful, and yet, still as vital and crucial. I am 36 and still trying to figure out what I want. I think it’s less, for me, about identity, and more about happiness. When I do or say something I don’t feel or mean, I feel like shit, anxious and upset. When I do what I want, love who I want to love, hang out with people I want to hang out with, I am filled with peace. I’m very aware of that tension right now.
And yeah, I love that quote. If I ever get married, man oh man, I want that to be reflective of the kind of love I nurture!
Thanks for chiming in, and again, for liking my new glasses!!!
How’s the HOUSE????
xo
Kimmi! I am here to tell you that your glasses are hella hot, and that you are hella hot. Thank you very much.
This reminds me of Suzy Welch’s book 10-10-10: A Life-Transforming Idea, just released this week. (She’s married to Jack Welch &is the former editor of Harvard Business Review.)
“10-10-10″ refers to her formula for making decisions & solving problems: How will you feel about this in 10 minutes? 10 months? 10 years?
The interesting thing about this is that although it’s a sort of glib, flavor-of-the-month way to clarify what you truly want, actually executing your solution requires being really clear with other people about your values. Because staying focused on what you really want, brings up your assumptions, your expectations and your values in a really examined way.
Tina Brown’s interview with Suzy came out this week on The Daily Beast:
http://www.thedailybeast.com/blogs-and-stories/2009-04-16/suzy-welch-dishes/
Deborah! You’re awesome! Thanks for the link! And yeah, I have read about this before, and this it’s a cool way to think about like and decision making and happiness in general.